Some values are specific to us. There are other values that we rank in order. What are God’s values? What are important in order of rank to God? Before Jesus, there were over 613 written laws that followers of God had to keep track of. In addition, there were over 1000 rules that people had to follow in order to love and follow God. When Jesus came, He was asked what was the single most important rule to follow. “Jesus answered, “The most important commandment is this…’Love the Lord your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your mind, and all your strength.†The second commandment is this: ‘Love your neighbor as you love yourself.†There are no commands more important than these.’â€-Mark 12:29-31 (NCV) People will know you are a follower of Christ by the love you show each other. We use the word love to describe a lot of things – to describe material things that we like, to describe our relationships and to describe our faith. In Jesus’s time, he only had four terms to choose from:
Philia: Friendship Love
Storge: Family Type Love
Eros: Egotistical selfish Love
Agape: Unconditional Love
Jesus chose Agape to describe the love we are to show our fellow man because it’s the highest type of love you can give.
What love is NOT:
1) Love isn’t a feeling. It can produce feelings in us. It can make us joyful or angry (if someone hurts those we love). God could never command us to have a feeling.
2) Love isn’t uncontrollable. It’s not accidental. There’s a choice. If you have no control over it when it comes to you, you have no control over when it leaves.
3) Love isn’t just being nice. It’s not keeping silent just to keep the peace. Sometimes love creates friction (on purpose). Give loving discipline. God is not optional. Love speaks up even when it’s not the nicest thing to say. Love isn’t flattery. Flattery is not done for love but rather it’s done because the person is trying to deflect and cover up misdeeds. Love doesn’t enjoy giving the honesty necessary for growth – like giving a different perspective.
Giving in a loving way is love. Give each other grace and space. The assumption is that we’re all trying to move forward and be more like Christ. Love also is this idea of saying tough things as well.
What love IS:
1) 1Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV). Love is a choice. It’s a command from God. Pursue love. Make a choice to go after it with all your heart and soul. Some people are easy to love but others are very hard to love. Love is a choice that we make every single day. Love is easy when you’re on your honeymoon, when you’re flush with cash and everything is rosy. But love isn’t so easy when you’re broke, unemployed and struggling every day. It’s easy to love those that love us. That doesn’t help us grow. Those that help us grow are the ones most difficult to love. They grow our grace and character.
2) Love is an action. Stop talking about loving people so much and just do it. Really love and show it through your actions. Make a choice to grow in your love. Even though we have great intentions, we focus on our to do lists and not on what really matters. Take a moment to hug a child, listen when necessary. Take the first small step to mend broken relationships. Ask God for His help. Every time you’re faced with a choice, choose to take the step towards love and not away from it.
Accept God’s love by starting a relationship with Jesus today. Focus on relationships instead of achievements. Let love and faith start with you, in your home. Practice Love in Action by participating in three community service projects.